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Dear xoJane, It's been more than a year since I've written here, since I've done more than read articles and then click away to the next thing, whatever that thing might be. My life changed all in one stroke — the death of an important family member, a job change, a big move, a novel. And ...

It was a dark and stormy night—not that K could tell, considering she was three shots of vodka deep into her Saturday night and dancing with reckless abandon to Top 40 music at a college party. Everything was going well: her hair looked great, she... The post Interracial Dating Horror Stories:

It’s just an incredibly strange feeling to recognize that your existence is simply a category tab.   It’s a regular weekday afternoon and I’m about submit some fashion or beauty story about some it-trend. The article itself is complete, all that’s missing are some images.... The post I Spent Years

Yep, like many others I am many a person’s only black friend, first “exotic” sexual experience, and justification for writing a lengthy racist Facebook status Recently a friend texted me out of the blue, “What do you think about the Confederate flag?” Girl. There were... The post 30 Things Not To

These pageants cultivate sisterhood, social and political consciousness, and the scholastic accomplishments of various ethnicities of women throughout the African diaspora. I am a pageant girl. No, I am not the typical blonde, blue-eyed bombshell, beauty queen one may imagine competing in the Miss